Why do lorelai and christopher break up

I think that if the writers had taken a bit more time, they could've reached their ultimate goal of breaking up the Christopher and Lorelai marriage and still getting Luke and Lorelai back together.

That's not to say that I personally would've agreed with that decision, but I think there was a less harmful way of approaching that end goal without ruining Christopher's character and without making Lorelai seem wishy washy about her heart and about the direction her life was going and without the two of them treating marriage so carelessly. I think that the writers could have worked realistic newlywed problems into the marriage that would result in both parties coming to the realization that while they have this great history, ultimately they aren't meant to be together as husband and wife.

I could have swallowed such a storyline much better than one night Christopher goes to bed in love with his wife and his life and waking up a jealous and mad husband the next morning. Quote from: ella on February 19, , pm After all, the show wants people to--the writers and actors would be doing a horrible job if they weren't convincing people that the main ship of the show was right.

Luke and Lorelai have a "tension" kind of chemistry, Christopher and Lorelai have a "togetherness" kind of chemistry. To some people, constant tension is exciting because it suggests sexual passion; for others, it feels emotionally loveless. For some people, too much "togetherness" is just plain boring because it leaves no room for fantasy.

I personally sense that Lorelai and Christopher and, I strongly suspect, Lauren and David really enjoy being together, and watching them onscreen lets me feed off that happiness. I hadn't ever thought of it this way, and you make a really valid point about the different kind of tensions and love between these couples.

And perhaps it speaks to the kind of person I am that I prefer the "togetherness" kind of chemistry as opposed to the "tension" kind of chemistry. From my own experiences in relationships, the tension kind of chemistry is fun in the beginning. It's exciting to have someone who challenges you and debates with you and forces you to think outside of your comfort zone.

But for me at least, that kind of relationship isn't made to be long-lasting because while fighting starts off as an attractive feature of the relationship at some point it becomes the norm and fighting becomes how you communicate with each other, which to me is a bit of an oxymoron. Fighting shouldn't be the sole means of communication. Not when you're an adult in a committed relationship.

Fighting is a healthy means of airing pent up problems, but it shouldn't happen regularly. There isn't anything from my experience in the real world, that suggests that two such people would reunite romantically at this point.

First of all, they aren't compatible individuals. Sometimes opposite people do get together. But rarely people as opposite as Lorelai and Luke. Add proximity and a long friendship, and I can see how Lorelai and Luke would find their way to each other. But after what happened in Season 6 between them? After Lorelai ran straight from Luke into Christopher's arms, dated him, and married him? It's asking too much of my credulity to realistically accept Luke and Lorelai together as a couple again at this point, except for the fact that it's TV and they're "soulmates" and "destined".

I think that this storyline also ruins the character of Luke to some degree. All these seasons my impression of Luke has always been that he is someone with great pride and self-respect. I have always liked that about Luke, even when his pride and self-respect led him to be incredibly stubborn, I appreciated that he stuck to his guns for what he felt to be right or true in accordance to his own beliefs.

Like this season with fighting for April, I thought that that was very admirable of Luke to fight for a daughter that he had just discovered and for a guy who's been a bachelor for so long to fully embrace his long-lost daughter and to let her redecorate his place with items from Target, and to buy her a rock polisher, etc.

The Luke who is full of pride and stubbornness wouldn't take Lorelai back if only because she betrayed and hurt him on such a deep level by giving him an ultimatum and when he didn't jump at it, running straight into Christopher's arms. This is a guy who has pined away for her since the first season, and we are led to believe, even before. He carried a horoscope from the first time she met him -- and now she's run off and not just slept with her ex-boyfriend and the father of her daughter, but she's gone off and married him and had a marriage albeit a short one with him.

How could he forgive something like that? The very Luke who stood outside of his and Nicole's apartment and kicked at her boyfriend's car until he was arrested -- and he didn't even love Nicole as much as he loves Lorelai!

I can't believe that that same Luke would take Lorelai back. Quote from: ella on February 19, , pm Childhood and adolescence are formative years in a person's life. The fact that Lorelai and Christopher understand their "inner child" isn't a small thing--your early life shapes who you become.

In fact, researchers have studied the phenomenon of first love, and basically they think that your first romantic relationship imprints itself on your brain, something similar to the way a baby becomes attached to its mother. I will personally attest to the importance and the significance of the people from your childhood. I am 27 years old and my best friends today are the very same girls whom I met on our first day of kindergarten.

One of the girls and I have actually known each other since we were 3 years old and were in Sunday school together. Throughout our lives we have faced some difficult things. Two of my friends' parents have gotten divorced, between the six of us we have lost four parents and two of our mothers have battled cancer.

All this on top of regular growing up things like your first crush and your first heartbreak, going off to college, getting married and having kids. Luke knew after one conversation with Lorelai that she didn't want to move out of her house and dropped the idea of house-hunting. Christopher, on the other hand, didn't seem interested in staying in Stars Hollow.

He took her house-hunting in another town and didn't love that all of Stars Hollow compared him to the wonderful Luke. In "Merry Fisticuffs," Christopher was eager to lock a future down with Lorelai in every possible way. Now that they were married and he was trying to win over Stars Hollow, he realized the only other way to keep Lorelai bound to him forever was by having another kid.

Lorelai was totally thrown off guard because they never talked about having more kids. She wasn't even sure if she wanted that and the conversation made her uncomfortable. Christopher, however, saw Lorelai's hesitation as her thinking their marriage wouldn't work. Seeing how out of sync they were, this was something that should have been discussed before getting married.

Lorelai and Luke's friendship and past were woven into so many aspects of the town. Christopher would never be able to escape him. Despite Luke and Christopher's hatred for each other, Luke was Lorelai's best friend; he helped raise Rory when Christopher wasn't there, and he served her favorite coffee. How was Christopher able to compete? When Luke and Lorelai slowly started talking again, he knew she was the only person that could help him getting custody of his daughter, April.

She knew his character better than anyone and would go out of her way to help him get his daughter back. But when Christopher realized how involved Lorelai was in Luke's custody battle , his anger drove him to leave. Christopher claims to know Lorelai better than anyone, but realistically, Christopher knows the old Lorelai. The Lorelai in his head and his heart was the Lorelai he fell in love with as a teen. But Lorelai is a different woman in her adult years.

His assumptions about their daughter, her points of view, and their future together were just that — assumptions. When Lorelai breaks the hard truth to Christopher he has a meltdown. Around the start of the series, Christopher is sporadically in and out of their lives; sometimes several years span between his appearances. He also sent Lorelai a beautiful and well-thought-out gift basket on her graduation day. When Sherry abandons Christopher and their daughter, Gigi, with no notice, Lorelai helps him out, much to Rory's dismay [6] , and Emily encourages Christopher to go after Lorelai while Lorelai is with Luke.

He did not just offer to share his fortunes with Rory, but also Lorelai - even though the two were not in any sort of romantic entanglement the time. When Lorelai breaks up with Luke, she ends up in bed with Christopher [9] and they eventually start dating and are later married. Born into families of very similar economic advantage and social conduct [1] , Lorelai and Christopher seem to bond over their mutual inability to see a future for themselves within the confines of the expectations that come along with this lifestyle.

Entering their teen years, Lorelai one day kisses Christopher, saying she 'just wanted to know what it would feel like', which Christopher later recalls to Rory as the best day of his life. Presumably not long after this, they start a relationship in high school and start having sex, and Lorelai gets pregnant around the time of her coming out.

After Lorelai leaves for Stars Hollow, Christopher is only sporadically in and out of his daughter's life until she's in adolescence, for reasons unknown. He states at one point that it's hard for him to see Rory because he misses her so much it's easier on him to stay away. Seeing Christopher getting serious with Sherry leaves Lorelai heartbroken, and she realises that she may have been waiting for him since they were 16 to become a man she could rely on, as Rory's father and maybe Lorelai's husband.